Relationships: Girls and Games
Is it me or do girls tend to think that relationships are a game? Not only that, but guys don't have feelings and screwing around with them is OK because it doesn't hurt. I have a mate who has had a relationship problem lately and, although not in the relationship yet, he has been shattered to bits by this girl because she seems to show conflicting feelings at different times.
First, it begins with the
'i don't like you, but ill get to know you scenario
Then, it moves to the
'WOW, you're a nice guy, ill get to know you more and I hope our next outing is a date'
Finally,
'I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship, ill take a raincheck'
This al happens within the space of 2 weeks. Given that my friend is head over heals for this girl, I've given varying degrees of advice, beginning at the "I'm not going to tell you what to do, but you should.." all the way to the "Fuck it, just tell her what's going on or you'll get screwed around even more".
It just comes down to the fact that
A friend and I have come up with a conclusion about women - to women, its all a game. Why can't girls just not 'think' so much and take every day as it comes.? Why can't they just accept things for the way they are and not read into 'issues' that aren't even issues? It's a bloody joke, why can't the other gender just chill out and not think of the alternate situations.
Can someone out there provide me with an insight?
posted by Will-e-am at
1:11 PM
6 Comments:
They say relationships are all a game.
Why cant girls (note the use of the word 'girls') just realise when games have expired and when its time to turn in the dice & start acting truthfully about how they feel. They keep on playing this game of, im going to show you a little bit of me then draw back, then send you confused signals etc etc
Us guys just cant get enough of the games that girls play with us, i mean who wouldnt love the feeling of not knowing where you stand? who wouldnt love the feeling of not being able to tell a girl how u feel without fear of them drawing back because you dont even know how she feels!?
I'll tell you one thing, if these girls continue to play their games they wont end up with a nice guy, only a guy who knows how to play. Remember that, the next time you act with only ur self-interests at heart (girls).
In the end where will they end up? I'll tell you where, underneath the hearts she has shattered & the minds she has warped. She will be trapped in a relationship with someone she ultimately never wanted in the first place.
If guys are nice in the beginning - its not because of some bizzare circumstance - think about it, its because they are showing you who they truly are. Trust in your own judgement & dont approach every relationship as if it were a game. Coz if you play, expect to lose.
Thats all.
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Anonymous, at November 22, 2004 9:42 AM
I apologise on behalf of the female population but yes, many girls think relationships are just a game and that they can play around with guys without caring about their feelings. However, guys are equally bad cuz they get easily attracted to other girls while in a relationship so end up hurting their partner. With ur friend, i think the girl thought she should give ur friend a go but then after awhile realised he wasnt for her so just made up the excuse that she wasnt ready for a relationship. She said that because she's not really lying (she's not ready for a relationship with HIM) but the guy takes it as she's not ready for any relationship.
And i have to admit, i think too much too. I create scenarios in my head that my bf doesnt' know even exists because i analyse things too much. But that happens when you like someone and we cant be as relaxed as you boys. But I have to add in that, i dont play around with people just in case you get the wrong interpretation! I care about others feelings.
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Mel, at November 22, 2004 11:23 AM
"hello will," says jee...
anyway.. yes girls and boys alike think relationships are a game. and in a way, they are a game, it just depends on how much of a game they think it is and how far they will take it.
on one end of the spectrum there are those girls who are major game players and just like to muddle around with some poor boy's feelings because they know they can, and because the guy allows himself to be blindsighted by the halo-effect. yes it's not fair. and when a guy realises what the girl is doing they should seriously just forget about her because he obviously deserves better.
on the other end, there are many girls who just don't. not all girls are like that, they do understand that boys have feelings. unfortunately not all boys think that girls have feelings that are often more fragile than they seem. often people like to build up some sort of saftey barrier because of bad past experiences.
somewhere in the middle, i hear that guys like 'the chase'.. so game playing is acceptable to some degree?
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Anonymous, at November 22, 2004 1:36 PM
everyone, shut the fuck up. It always has been a game and always will be a game. Gotta face reality, n if u cant play, then u bound to drizown!
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Anonymous, at November 22, 2004 9:04 PM
Everyone, the fact of the matter is that relationships are a game, so you better play or you bound to drizown
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Anonymous, at November 22, 2004 9:11 PM
hell yeh niggaaaaaaa
idiot.
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Eazy Tiger, at November 23, 2004 7:01 AM
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